

This will only cause unnecessary conflict that could turn physical. Also, don’t follow your spouse, track them on GPS, or unexpectedly confront them in public. You may not be able to use that information in court. Even if you’re successful, you probably obtained the information unlawfully unless you already knew the passwords. Don’t try to hack into your spouse’s phone, email, or social media accounts. There are acceptable ways to gather evidence of cheating, but there are things you shouldn’t do. Contact an attorney to gather the necessary proof that your spouse has cheated so you can get the alimony or divorce you need.

If you decide to divorce your spouse, don’t bother with approaching them about the situation. You must decide whether to trust your spouse or seek proof of infidelity. Your spouse will either admit or deny the affair. Set aside time to sit down with your spouse and raise your concerns. Talk with your spouse about the affair if you hope to stay married. Do you want to continue with the marriage or file for divorce? If you feel the marriage is over, contact an attorney right away. Consider your feelings and your relationship. If you think your spouse has been unfaithful, remain calm. You should take some steps if you suspect your spouse is cheating on you. What Can I Do If I Suspect Adultery in My Marriage? These factors could influence one parent receiving a more significant amount of custody than the other. They might think the parent’s continued relationship with the third party isn’t appropriate for the children to be around.

The judge might believe the parent who had an affair isn’t as stable or responsible as the other parent. But a parent’s extramarital relationship might impact what is best for the children. An affair doesn’t usually warrant a loss of custody. The judge decides custody based on the best interests of your children. If your spouse used commingled money or racked up credit card debt in order to conduct the extramarital relationship, this could change how the judge divides your assets and debts. Unless, however, an affair impacted the marital finances. The judge usually doesn’t consider infidelity for dividing property. Cheating Rarely Impacts Property Distribution If the judge finds that the dependent spouse, the spouse seeking alimony, had an illicit sexual relationship during the marriage, then the judge almost certainly will not award alimony.

It’s essential to firmly establish that your spouse had a sexual relationship with someone else while you were married. Under NCGS 50-16.3A, if a judge finds the supporting spouse (the spouse who makes the most money) had an illicit sexual relationship during the marriage and before the separation date, then they may order alimony to the dependent spouse. A judge may make many divorce-related decisions by considering a spouse’s infidelity. The lies involved with adultery can significantly impact the outcome of the divorce. You can still get a court order for child support, alimony, child custody, visitation, spousal support, and property division.Ī divorce from bed and board often leads to a dissolution of the marriage because it will provide for the legal separation of spouses for at least one year, which is a requirement of absolute divorce. “Bed and Board” Divorcesīed and board divorce is a legal separation that does not actually terminate the marriage. Indignities rendering life intolerable or burdensomeĪdditionally, incurable insanity may be used as grounds for an absolute divorce in certain circumstances under NCGS 50-5.1.Excessive or addictive drug and/or alcohol use.Cruelty or barbarous treatment endangering the life of the other spouse.However, you can assert grounds for divorce in a legal separation, which include: The spouses must have lived separate and apart for at least one year.At least one spouse must have lived in the state for at least six months.The only requirements for a no-fault divorce are: A no-fault divorce is considered an “absolute” divorce and ends the marriage. Since North Carolina is a no-fault divorce state, you don’t have to have grounds for divorce. A cheating spouse is more likely to be ordered to pay spousal support or alimony. However, adultery is grounds for divorce from bed and board, similar to a legal separation in North Carolina, under North Carolina General Statutes (NCGS) 50-7. You can simply state that the marriage is broken and you want to end it. That means you aren’t required to have a reason for a divorce. North Carolina is a “no-fault” divorce state. Remain strong and seek the help you need to move forward. Don’t let the situation get the best of you. Your emotions may be downright confusing, and you may not know where to turn. Divorce can be difficult, especially when adultery is involved.
